TOTALLY WIN AT LOVE: Smart Talk About Sex and Relationships ...

Topic: intimacy
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?Q Sex has dropped off?way off. We are both busy people with jobs and kids so I tried making time for us to be intimate. I thought Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday night would be good. My wife complained that I was forcing her to a time table. I think she?s upset. I was just trying to help. Is making an appointment for sex a bad thing? If so why?

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A Sex and Intimacy are related but are not Identical Twins Scheduling sex produces problems because it suggests that sex should occur even if one or both does not, for any reason, want to participate. It?s not like a haircut or a colonoscopy where you follow through on your appointment even if you ?don?t feel like it.?

However, scheduling time for intimacy, rather than for sex, promises to promote a closeness which can move sex from rare to frequent and from obligatory to passionate.
? In order to redeem yourself, you?ll need the following Intimacy Facts:

? 1. Intimacy is emotional communication which may or may not include sex.

? 2. Couples who are intimate can talk about anything without feeling defensive.

?3. Time and privacy allow intimacy to develop.

?4. Intimacy resides on a two-way street. ?

??Schedule time for intimacy. You?ll be surprised at what comes up. Remember, not everything that comes up has to be used. ?Make appointments for time and privacy to give intimacy a chance. When you learn to enjoy intimacy for its own sake, sex will naturally return.

??? For more on creating intimacy read:

??Dr. B's Relationship Checkup- Step 2 of 6 -?
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?The Tools of Intimacy part 2 - Totally Win at Love

??Chapter one in?? Win at Love!: 5 Hidden Forces to Make It Happen
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