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Today, 05:17 AM	? #1 (permalink)
Member ? Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 165	My gf of 5 months is on vacation with her ex; on a trip she originally invited me to go on. Before meeting up with him, and flying out, she sends me a chat message that she loves me and wished i was there through Google chat ( we use that instead of texting on our phones) and then she signs off!! She has been signed off for the whole night and morning and now I'm just livid. I feel so disrespected, foolish and don't even know where to begin to address this with her. She clearly did not want to be disturbed when meeting up with him, clearly that is the case but is there any hope for a relationship that this occurs in??? I feel its not, am I overreacting? I need advice on how to respond as well, I am livid right now and don't want to overreact. Please give me your thoughts...Thank you. EDIT 1: Going dark, cutting off communication: Facebook unfriended Instagram blocked Google+ photo album blocked Number deleted Hitting the gym Lawyering up wait wut EDIT 2: OK, phonecall number 1 incoming... voicemail transcript Quote: Hey imjustlost. So I woke up today find myself seemingly deleted from your life I think there was no explanation. I'm sure we'll talk about this. Because I'm deleted from your life with no explanation. Last edited by imjustlost; Today at 10:41 AM.
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Today, 05:29 AM	? #4 (permalink)
Member ? Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 366	Quote: My gf of 5 months is on vacation with her ex; on a trip she originally invited me to go on. Before meeting up with him, and flying out, she sends me a chat message that she loves me and wished i was there through Google chat ( we use that instead of texting on our phones) and then she signs off!! She has been signed off for the whole night and morning and now I'm just livid. I feel so disrespected, foolish and don't even know where to begin to address this with her. She clearly did not want to be disturbed when meeting up with him, clearly that is the case but is there any hope for a relationship that this occurs in??? I feel its not, am I overreacting? I need advice on how to respond as well, I am livid right now and don't want to overreact. Please give me your thoughts...Thank you. The only relationship here is the gf and the ex. If you think that you are anywhere in the equation you are dead wrong. YOU are now the ex. How does she invite the ex on a vac and expect to keep up the illusion that she is with you? You know they are having sex daily, right? And you think that you and she are still together? When she gets back keep some dignity and tell her to eff off. You are under reacting if that's possible.
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Today, 05:30 AM	? #5 (permalink)
Member ? Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 165	She said she didn't feel comfortable with me spending the money while going through my divorce (I'm going through a divorce) Quote: Is trip one that SHE PAID FOR and is non-refundable? They each paid their share. Originally there was a third party who backed out (conveniently???). Quote: How long was this trip planned? four months Quote: How long were she and ex together? 4 years Quote: Do she and ex have any kids? no kids, engaged to be married, she broke it off 35 24 Quote: Why does SHE say she and ex broke up? She was unhappy and they were like roommates rather than partners.
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Today, 05:40 AM	? #10 (permalink)
Member ? Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 366	Quote: What do I tell her now??? Just that I am so ****ing pissed I can't even talk to you until you get back? Have fun with your ex on vacation??? Do you honestly think that you have a relationship with a woman who goes on a trip with another man, ex or not? You know what they are doing, every day of that trip? Tell her it's over or be a cuckold. Look up the term if you don't know it. There is NO relationship here. Both of them are laughing at you as they screw like rabbits. YOU KNOW THIS.
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Today, 05:53 AM	? #11 (permalink)
Member ? Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: The Most DANGEROUS City in America! Posts: 966	Quote: What do I tell her now??? Just that I am so ****ing pissed I can't even talk to you until you get back? Tell her NOTHING. Do NOT answer IMs; do NOT answer calls; do NOT answer texts (delete them UNREAD). There is NOTHING this GIRL can say to you to justify this behavior. Sounds to me like she is way too immature to be marrying anybody (hence, the broken engagement). She should also NOT be dating anybody 'exclusively' as she, apparently, doesn't understand how THAT works, either. Were you paying for everything in your relationship with her? Lending her money? Paying a few of her bills? Because this sounds pretty much like gold-digger behavior IMHO. Screw you enough to get what she wants, but continue to do what SHE wants the rest of the time. I would GO DARK on her PERMANENTLY. You are NEVER HOME if she stops by. You NEVER answer her calls. You DELETE all voicemail messages THE SECOND you recognize her voice. You DELETE ALL texts from here UNREAD. You do NOT RESPOND to ANY TEXTS from her. She made HER intentions clear when she got on a plane with another man (after un-inviting you). She declared any viable relationship with you OVER when she agreed to go away on a vacation with her ex. I say, you owe her NOTHING. No note, no IM, no discussion, no nothing. C'mon, REALLY? Do you HONESTLY THINK she won't figure this out during her vacay with ex-fiance? If she CAN'T figure it out, then consider yourself well-rid of one dumb bimette.
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